OLIVE ELF

olive-elf:

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Anonymous said: So my only sister who is getting married next June. So anyway I'm now her maid of honor but she wants me to dye my hair back to its natural color, she forbade me from getting any more piercing a before her wedding and she wants/demands that I take my septum piercing out and buy expensive plugs to match her theme. Now I don't mind buying nice stone, or wooden plugs but I refuse to dye my hair and take out my septum piercing. Am I being unreasonable? My family thinks I am.

olive-elf:

jocykitty:

olive-elf:

I don’t think so at all! Ive attended loads of things with my family and not once has my apperance  even come up! maybe the clothes buuuttt thats another thing ha.

Maybe tell her, your not changing yourself for one day, Something that will probably( hair dye) take months/year to get back. I know its her big day but maybe tell her your happy to just attend rather than be the maid of honour and be forced to change your appreance.

She will ever say fine or no okay you don’t have to change anything.

Either way its pretty shallow and i would fight your corner all the way!

I asked this question. I’m so frustrated and my mom is getting really angry with me. I love my sister but my piercing and hair make me more comfortable in public. Especially since I’m bigger than my sister and all of her other bridesmaids like 6 dress sizes bigger than them. I even offered to buy a cute septum piercing which she hasn’t agreed to yet. Urrgg. My mom says if I don’t want to be the maid of honor she will be really angry with me. I won’t take the attention away from my sister and she doesn’t mind my hair much but she just wants my face without piercing because she hates them. My entire life she has disliked my style. It’s frustrating. I don’t feel like myself when my piercing a are flipped up or taken out. I want to be in here wedding and I will wear whatever she wants me to wear but I am fat and crippled and I will be sitting next to 4 other bridesmaids and a bride who are all thin and totally normal. I want to keep the things that make me more comfortable on my body while i hobble down the isle and sit down during the ceremony because i cant stand for long periods of time. I have 8 months to convince her.

Id just shit down with her and tell her, if you tell her how uncomfortable it will make you feel it would be pretty darn shitty for her still to say no and make you do it. A mother should try to make you comfortable and confidant   if she takes that away from you? well … id be pretty darn disappointed…

Im really not what to offer you hear :/ the only thing i could suggest again is a wig but its won’t help the confidence and maybe show them some nice septum pieces? maybe a cute Industrial strength clicker…

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Anonymous said: So my only sister who is getting married next June. So anyway I'm now her maid of honor but she wants me to dye my hair back to its natural color, she forbade me from getting any more piercing a before her wedding and she wants/demands that I take my septum piercing out and buy expensive plugs to match her theme. Now I don't mind buying nice stone, or wooden plugs but I refuse to dye my hair and take out my septum piercing. Am I being unreasonable? My family thinks I am.

jocykitty:

olive-elf:

I don’t think so at all! Ive attended loads of things with my family and not once has my apperance  even come up! maybe the clothes buuuttt thats another thing ha.

Maybe tell her, your not changing yourself for one day, Something that will probably( hair dye) take months/year to get back. I know its her big day but maybe tell her your happy to just attend rather than be the maid of honour and be forced to change your appreance.

She will ever say fine or no okay you don’t have to change anything.

Either way its pretty shallow and i would fight your corner all the way!

I asked this question. I’m so frustrated and my mom is getting really angry with me. I love my sister but my piercing and hair make me more comfortable in public. Especially since I’m bigger than my sister and all of her other bridesmaids like 6 dress sizes bigger than them. I even offered to buy a cute septum piercing which she hasn’t agreed to yet. Urrgg. My mom says if I don’t want to be the maid of honor she will be really angry with me. I won’t take the attention away from my sister and she doesn’t mind my hair much but she just wants my face without piercing because she hates them. My entire life she has disliked my style. It’s frustrating. I don’t feel like myself when my piercing a are flipped up or taken out. I want to be in here wedding and I will wear whatever she wants me to wear but I am fat and crippled and I will be sitting next to 4 other bridesmaids and a bride who are all thin and totally normal. I want to keep the things that make me more comfortable on my body while i hobble down the isle and sit down during the ceremony because i cant stand for long periods of time. I have 8 months to convince her.

Id just shit down with her and tell her, if you tell her how uncomfortable it will make you feel it would be pretty darn shitty for her still to say no and make you do it. A mother should try to make you comfortable and confidant   if she takes that away from you? well … id be pretty darn disappointed…

Im really not what to offer you hear :/ the only thing i could suggest again is a wig but its won’t help the confidence and maybe show them some nice septum pieces? maybe a cute Industrial strength clicker…

Its so simple and very un noticable  ^-^